Helping Children with Challenging Behaviors – Positive Classroom Supports ~ free printable booklet. ~ Good behavior must be taught – Work with families rather than blame them. ~ Kids Use challenging behavior because it gets them what they need. Most challenging behaviors occur because the child doesn’t have better skills to use to solve problems. Usually these are Social & Emotional Skills – We CAN teach these skills. The Golden Rule of Challenging Behavior: What You Pay Attention To You will Get More Of!
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Children who use challenging behavior often get less positive attention from other children and adults. Here is a list of some of the common skills that children will need to learn in order to replace their challenging behavior.
How to Get Positive Attention From the Teacher: They Say “Good Morning!” They give us pictures they have drawn. They declare, “You’re the best teacher!” or “Can you look at what I did?” They have learned social graces that other children have not. We can teach these strategies directly to children who need them. Mini lessons with modeling and practice work well. Puppets can be a great way to show the strategies in action. And be sure to give plenty of positive feedback when a child first uses any of the examples.
How To Get Positive Attention From Other Children: This is especially important for the child who is being reinforced by other children’s attention – typically the class clown who has few friends. Again using modeling and practice, teach the child skills such as:
- How to say nice things to people
- how to join a group at play by adding to the play theme
- how to start a conversation
- how to ask for something instead of grabbing
- how to say “no” politely instead of pushing
How To Solve Conflicts With Others: Teach the child alternatives to using aggression. These might be walking away to take a break, getting a teacher to help, or using words to express emotions, such as “I don’t like it when you say that!” or “Don’t touch my desk, I don’t like that!” The whole class can benefit from lessons and practice in problem solving steps that are readily available online.
How To Ask for a Break: Have a signal or teach the child what words to use to get a break. Allow the child a short break – getting a drink of water, standing, stretching, or taking a note to the office, and then teach the child how to get back to work immediately. Remember that children need breaks frequently and it is better to teach them how to do this appropriately than to have them remain off task, or to constantly reprimand them.
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