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19 Things Our Kids Need to Hear From Us Often

Children Are Always Listening

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With our busy, day to day lives, sometimes it is easy to forget to be really present and ‘talk’ to our children. Of course they know we love them, but sometimes we forget the things that they need to hear, and hear often.

19 Things Our Kids Need to Hear From Us Often:

  1. I love you! There is nothing that will make me stop loving you. Nothing you could do or say or think will ever change that.
  2. You are amazing! I look at you with wonder! Not just at what you can do, but who you are. There is no one like you. No one!
  3. It’s all right to cry. People cry for all kinds of reasons: when they are hurt, sad, glad, or worried; when they are angry, afraid, or lonely. Big people cry too. I do.
  4. You’ve made a mistake. That was wrong. People make mistakes. I do. Is it something we can fix? What can we do? It’s all over. You can start fresh. I know you are sorry. I forgive you.
  5. You did the right thing. That was scary or hard. Even though it wasn’t easy, you did it. I am proud of you; you should be too.
  6.  I’m sorry. Forgive me. I made a mistake.
  7. You can change your mind. It’s good to decide, but it is also fine to change.
  8. What a great idea! You were really thinking! How did you come up with that? Tell me more. Your mind is clever!
  9. That was kind. You did something helpful and thoughtful for that person. That must make you feel good inside. Thank you!
  10.  I have a surprise for you. It’s not your birthday. It’s for no reason at all. Just a surprise, a little one, but a surprise.
  11.  I can wait. We have time. You don’t have to hurry this time.
  12.  What would you like to do? It’s your turn to pick. You have great ideas. It’s important to follow your special interests.
  13. Tell me about it. I’d like to hear more. And then what happened? I’ll listen.
  14.  I’m right here. I won’t leave without saying good-bye. I am watching you. I am listening to you.
  15. Please and Thank You. These are important words. If I forget to use them, will you remind me?
  16.  I missed you. I think about you when we are not together!
  17. Just try. A little bit. One taste, one step. You might like it. Let’s see. I’ll help you if you need it. I think you can do it.
  18.  I’ll help you. I heard you call me, here I am. How can I help you? If we both work together, we can get this done. I know you can do it by yourself, but I’m glad to help since you asked.
  19. What do you wish for? Even if it’s not yet time for birthday candles and we don’t have a wishbone, it’s still fun to hear about what you wish for, hope for, and dream about.

Author:

Mother, Pediatric Nurse and a Trail Blazer for Positive Change.

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