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7 CBT Worksheets for Dealing with Disappointment and accompanying activities (free)

CBT Children’s Emotion Worksheets


The purpose of the CBT Disappointment Worksheets

The worksheets are designed to explore and address the following factors:

  • Ability to identify, recall and describe episodes of not getting one’s way
  • Ability to identify, and alter, automatic negative thoughts that contribute to disappointment
  • Ability to identify and modify bodily manifestations of distress associated with this emotion
  • Ability to identify and modify words and actions associated with the emotion of disappointment

How to use the worksheets:

  • Worksheet 1:  Draw your disappointed face and describe what happened. Some younger children might not understand the word “disappointment; try instead “when you don’t get your way.” For many children, up to and including teens, drawing the emotion on the face facilitates reflection.
  • Worksheet 2:  Identifying automatic negative thoughts that led to the disappointment.  To introduce this worksheet use these other two resources:  CBT Visual Tutorial and CBT Thought Bubble Cards.  This will help you to establish the connection between automatic negative thoughts and upsetting emotions.
  • Worksheet 3:  What you said and did when you were disappointed.  A way to get this going is to ask, “If there had been a video camera filming you, what would the video show? What words would it show?
  • Worksheet 4: Body outline.  Some children may find exploring this difficult in a conventional format.  The body outline helps to enable reflection.  You can modify this by having children use colors, or by offering them blank paper to “draw what your body was like when you didn’t get your way.”
  • Worksheet 5:  Dealing with my disappointed thoughts.  This is the counterpart to worksheet 2.
  • Worksheet 6:  This is the counterpart to worksheet 3
  • Worksheet 7:  This is the counterpart to worksheet 4.  Some possible therapeutic activities to suggest, teach and rehearse here are relaxation breathing, muscle relaxation, , listening to Ipod, taking a walk.

Download 7 CBT Worksheet here: CBT-Worksheets-Sets

Here are You Tube Video To explain the Worksheet!

Cognitive Distortion Thought Bubbles

Thought-bubbles-photo-lightenedDownload 48 Pre-written and Blank Thought Cards on card stock & Laminate them. Color Printer works best:  Poison-Antidote-Thought-Bubbles

3 Ways to Use the Thought Bubbles:

1.  Make a “Poison Thought Game.” Scatter the thought bubbles in a jumble all over the floor. Say something like this: “We’re going to do a kind of matching game.  These red thought bubbles are different kinds of thoughts that make people upset. The green ones help to fight the red ones.  See if you can find green ones to match up with each of the red ones.”  There are some Antidote Thought bubbles that match more than one Poison Thought; this does not have to be exact.

2.  Play “Hunt for your Poison Thoughts.” Say something like: “Each person has certain Poison Thoughts that bother them more than other ones.  Which ones bother you the most?  Which Antidote Thoughts do you need to fight them?”  You can do this activity by either scattering the thought bubbles around the floor, or taping them up to a wall, or else by holding them up one at a time in sequence for the child/ children to look at.

3. Fill out the blank thought bubbles. The pre-written thought bubbles cover many of the most common problem thoughts and beliefs affecting children with Asperger’s and other autism spectrum disorders.  I provided blank thought bubbles to allow kids to customize their Poison and Antidote thoughts.

Here is a You Tube Video on How To use These Thought Bubbles

Help The Upset Person: A cognitive-behavioral game

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Here is how to Play This Game:

“When people are worried, or sad, or disappointed, or mad, they can help themselves to feel better.  They do this by thinking certain things, doing certain things, and saying certain things.  Here is a game where you get to be the one to help an upset person to calm down.

I am going to pretend to be different upset kids.  Your job is to tell me what to THINK, what to DO, and what to SAY to help solve my problem. 

f you give me good, helpful advice on what to think, do and say, then I will hold the picture of the upset person lower and lower.  If you give me advice that makes my problem worse, or doesn’t help at all, I will raise the picture higher and higher.

If the picture ends up this high [way above your head], then you have lost the game.

If the picture gets all the way down by my knees, then you have done a great job and you have won the game.”

Here are situations you can use for your enactments of the upset person role plays:

  • Young person who is upset because children on the playground suddenly decide to change the kickball rules to  allow five bases instead of three
  • Young person who is upset because a substitute teacher is not following the normal routine and is not listening to the young person’s advice
  • Young person is upset because the bakery delivered a defective cake to his birthday party—a Pikachu cake that is blue instead of yellow.  (Or, pick a local sports team’s colors and the bakery messes up the colors )
  • Young person is sad and hopeless because, although he is doing his best to fit in and socialize with peers, he has been unsuccessful
  • Young person who is on the bus on the way to the first day of a summer day camp, feeling apprehensive about new activities and the prospect of social failure

Download the instructions and the Faces for this Game here: Help-the-upset-person-activity2

Fix The Social Problem – a social skills game (free download)

Fix-The-Problem-Cards-Photo-1024x764Here are 3 or the 40 Face Cards provided in this game kit. You download, print and cut them out.

Fix-The-Problem-First-Person-Scenarios-1024x764You, the adult, read these scenarios aloud, while the children you are working with try to “fix the problem.”

Fix-The-Problem-Game-Money-Photo-1024x764You give out this game money to encourage participation. This game is fun but talking about your problems is hard work!

Filter The Anger Activity (Also an Anger Management Activity)


Raise awareness of okay vs. not-okay things to say when you are mad. Introduce and reinforce the idea that thoughts can be “filtered” before they are turned into words.

How to Start this activity:

“When we are upset, we can have many, many upsetting thoughts going through their mind, very quickly.  The thoughts can be so many, and so powerful, that they can “escape” out of your mouth if you are not careful. Your mind has a filter in it, to help us to say the right things, instead of every one of our thoughts to rush out of our mouths.”

(Now describe a filter-  Show them the filter visual)

“There are different kinds of filters.” (have them name some: coffee filter, water filter, oil filter, etc.  If you have a prop to demonstrate a filter now, that is good—try a colander, a coffee filter, etc)

“You can’t see the filter in your brain, but the way it works is kind of the same.  It is especially important to use your brain’s filter when you are upset or angry, so that you say things that are good, and get you help, and so you avoid saying things that frighten, confuse or anger other people.”


How to use the upset thought strips: On a big table or on the floor, have the participant(s) sort the statements into things that are okay to say, sometimes okay to say, and almost never okay to say.  Use the “Filter These Out” and “You can say these” visuals to help them  with the sorting.

Variations:  You, the adult, can try acting out the role of an upset person who is not succeeding in filtering his words.  Ask the young participants to help you to filter what you say.  Ask them to offer you alternative ways to express your upset feelings.This is a good teaching/therapy technique for social skills training.


Download Filter The Anger Activity here: Filter-the-anger-activity-download


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