As parents we need to make sure that our children think that it is okay to ask for help. In fact them asking for help shows us that they were being responsible. They also need to understand what “get help” means, most kids believe that “getting help” means the other person will do the work for them. We need to clarify that asking for help means the person will “show them how to do the work.” Point out to kids when it is a good time to ask for help and when it is not such a good time to ask for help. Role-play scenarios are always great teaching tools for kids.
I believe that all teachers should make sure that they have room for the “wiggly kids” to move during work time without distracting others. They should be allowed to fiddle with focus squishies, sit on yoga balls. If the “wiggly kids” become too distracting to the other students, setting up a “special workplace” in the back of the room may work well. This place is not a punishment it should be viewed as a learning opportunity.
Kids should be told what they can do not what they cannot do. It may help to always keep in the back of your mind that you always get more bees with honey than you do with vinegar. Always offer kids more positive enforcement from negative reinforcements. After The child has had a bad day try changing a statement like “I hope you don’t have another day like yesterday,” to instead, “today’s a brand-new day and I can’t wait to see what you do with it!”
Using a point rewards stem that reward system for staying on task and for finishing assignments will help to motivate them. Remember that each child has the statement “what’s in it for me?” tattooed right on their forehead. Intrinsic motivation is something that comes with time or I should say is learned with time.
As a parent give your child a watch, teach them how to use the timer on the watch, teach them how to tell time. Most of the time kids who struggle with Tina on task also struggle when it comes to time management. They will work better if they know there is a time limit and having to watch will get them some power some control.
What a Child needs to know to stay on task: Know what it is that they must do. Focus on each step. Think each step through. Do not let others interupt you or pull you away. Keep working. Go to a place such as the back of the room where the child will have a little bit more space to wiggle while they’re working and other kids will not be able to distract them.
Let kids know that when you, as a parent are working on a task, you work very hard to finish your task, you don’t stop in the middle even though the task is not fun, you get it all done.
This is a great book for children of elementary school age that have trouble staying on task and completing their work. The illustrations and the words are captivating, easy to understand and relatable. It does a good job of letting kids know that they are now too big to think that they can “just do it their way.” It also does a good job of putting a cabosh on the excuses of classmates being distracting “picking his nose” or “burping the alphabet,” as reasons for why the work is not being completed during class time. Makes it clear that no matter what distractions are present they need to be ignored and the students must stay on task. Uses good metaphors regarding parents working hard to complete their responsibilities and not stopping halfway through just because the task is not fun. It also Scripts a way for students to ask for help from a teacher appropriately. With children practice is key. The book emphasizes that sometimes a new way of doing things is just with the child may need to succeed.
“Miss Miller is now a good time for you to help me?” Then you clearly explain what it is that you need and do not forget to say “thank you.”
Another thing that this book does which I love, being a mom of a child that does need to go to his own secluded space in the classroom to minimize distractions so that he can stay focused and on task and complete his work, is that it makes that special place very non-judgment. Kids that are easily distracted sometimes and he just checked a separate place in the back of the classroom to be able to go to when their overstimulated there’s too many distractions going on that they can focus on their work and complete the task at hand.
The book also has at the very end tips for parents and educators on asking for help and staying on task. The tips are great for all parents and teachers to read through.